Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Stay At Home, Mom!

I have debated on posting this but after arguing with myself for several days (Don't act like you don't do it too) I have decided that well...this is my blog and so here it goes.....

I have heard several women & men lately make the statement or a statement on the order of - "In this day a family has to have two incomes to make it." I have not only been shocked by this statement but also angered. I have been shocked because the very people who have made these statements are the same people that give a personal testimony of a relationship with Christ. These are not worldly or even what some would consider back slidden people. Does Titus 2 no longer say that women are to be keepers of the home? Does it not apply to the families of the 21st century? If not, I want a pair of jeans and a glass of wine! Because if part of the Bible doesn't apply to the 21st century family then none of it does.

I think it is just an excuse and selfishness on the parts of the parents to say that Mom has to work in order to make ends meet! There are other ways to accomplish that goal. Sell your house, buy a smaller one. Don't buy new furniture. Don't finance a car. Eat at home. Eat PB & J for lunch instead of take out pizza. Purchase only if you must have it and preferably only if you have a coupon. Instead of going to the salon and spending $50 - $100 every 6 weeks on hair color go to WalMart and spend $8 - $10. I'm not saying you have to make these or other sacrifices but don't tell me your family can't live on one income. Of course you can. My family lives in the same country and in the same time period. We live on one income with a small supplementation from a few piano students that I teach out of my home. I do so because I want my children raised by their mother, not a daycare worker, not their Grandmother, not the Christian school teacher but by me! God put my children into my womb because He knew that I was the best person to raise my children. And yet time after time I see mother after mother send their children off to someone else to raise because they HAVE to have a job to pay for this, that, or the other thing. How about you just not buy the this, that, or the other thing.

Another area that I have seen lately rearing its ugly heads in many churches is the belief that Moms need to put their children into the daycare or the Christian school so that she can minister to others during that time. Let me offer an illustration if I may, suppose I spent several hours a week planning a menu, shopping for groceries, cleaning the kitchen and cooking and serving a wonderful meal to have my children sit at the table and I then say "Let's give this to the starving kids in Africa and I'm gonna make y'all some toast!" How does it grieve our Heavenly Father when He has given to us His children to raise and teach and train for Him, for us to then dump them off at the daycare center or the school building and say, "You watch them while I go give my time and service and love to somebodyelse's kids all day." How ridiculous but yet almost every week I hear in our churches that same statement. Oh, its not quite put like that - its usually more in the form of, "I need a break from these kids, somebody else needs to take them for a while, I need 'me' time, I want to serve the Lord in the school or the office, staying at home would be a waste of my talents." I shudder to think what God is thinking in heaven when statements like this are felt and made by the mothers of today. Do we not remember that He could see ahead to the 21st century when He inspired Paul to pen the very words that say our hearts, our time and our talents are to be at home? I think that He purposely put in Titus 2:5 for [women] [to be] "obedient to their own husbands," . As a teen and even as a younger wife and mother I have thought that a little redundant and a little humorous. What woman would think that Paul is talking about someoneelse's husband? Well that is exactly what she is doing by dropping the kids of at the daycare and running off to work. She is obeying some other woman's husband all day long. I wonder if that thought ever crosses the minds of Mom who say they must work for whatever reason?

The Devil is very sly. He is using every area he can to convince the Godly Mother that she should not be at home. Our families are the backbone of the church. Without good, Godly families you can not have a strong church. Without strong churches you can not propagate the Gospel. Let's let our men till the garden and let's keep our desire and our work at home. BTW, the home is not the building you live in but the husband and children you live in the building with. Just in case you were wondering.


Kim Allen said...

What a wonderful post.. Thanks for sharing.

Melissa said...

Hey there! I just found your blog! This is so true. I took an evening job just recently to help Tommy with a REALLY BIG financial hardship with the intent of only working a few months. Even though it was in the evenings, after Tommy came home and only for a few hours, still it has impacted our life for the worse! Grumpy Mommy!